What to Write in a Sympathy Card?

on May 26, 2020

Writing a sympathy card is hard, even for people who are good with words. Expressing your condolences is a very different task to writing a birthday message. The loss of a loved one is a painful time, and everyone copes with grief in a different way. 

Still, sending kind words in a sympathy card is a gesture of support, especially in times when we can’t offer a hug or attend a memorial service or a funeral.

If you’re really stuck for words, draw inspiration from our messages below to create a personalised note.

I’m Sorry for Your Loss - Sympathy Message Examples 

When writing a sympathy message, you can add a personal touch, depending on how well you knew the person and their family. However, it’s best to avoid writing anything that touches the circumstances of death, or assigns blame. 

It's always hard to find the right words in sadness
Photo: Annie Spratt Unsplash

Use these messages to get you started:

  1. I’m sorry for your loss. He/She made the world a better, brighter place. 
  2. I’m so sorry for your loss. Even though I’m far away, I am thinking of you and feeling your pain, sending you support and comforting hugs.
  3. We’re so sorry for your loss. You are in our thoughts and prayers.
  4. Please accept my deepest sympathy for your loss. You are in my thoughts and heart.
  5. I’m so sorry for your loss. I know it’s hard and painful. [NAME] is in our thoughts now, and he/she will never leave our memories.
  6. [NAME] brought joy and happiness to us. No one and nothing can ever take that away. Please, accept our deepest condolences.
  7. I’m so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you and your family.
  8. Accept my sincere condolences over the loss of [NAME]. She/he was a wonderful person, and I am grateful I was a part of her/his life.
  9. I can’t find the right words to describe how deeply sorry I am for your loss. [NAME] was a wonderful person. I am proud to have been a part of her/his life.
  10. Please accept my condolences to you. I want you to know that I am thinking of you.
  11. [NAME] is in a better place now, one that only good people go to. I am so sorry he/she is no longer with us. My heart goes out to you and your family.
  12. In your sadness, please know that our thoughts are with you and your family.
  13. I have known [NAME] all of my life (40,30, 20.. years). He/she was an amazing woman/ brilliant man. I am so sorry he/she isn’t a part of this world anymore. Please accept my condolences.
  14. I am so, so sorry for your loss. Remember that we love and care about you.
  15. I’m so sorry. I’m struggling to find the right words, but please know that I’m thinking of you. 

Condolences Quotes

Writing a comforting message to a sympathy card is one way to show sympathy. The other way is writing quotes of condolence to offer support to the bereaved.

  1. There are no goodbyes for us. Wherever you are, you will always be in my heart.
    Mahatma Gandhi
  2. Grief is the price we pay for love.
    Queen Elizabeth II
  3. Loss is what teaches us about the real value of things.
    Arthur Schopenhauer
  4. That though the radiance which was once so bright be now forever taken from my sight. Though nothing can bring back the hour of splendour in the grass, glory in flower. We will grieve not, rather find strength in what remains behind.
    William Wordsworth
  5.  Human life is a story told by God.
    Hans Christian Andersen
  6. As a well-spent day brings happy sleep, so a life well spent brings happy death.
    Leonardo Da Vinci
  7. Unable are the loved to die, for love is immortality.
    Emily Dickinson
  8. The comfort of having a friend may be taken away, but not that of having had one.
  9. What we have once enjoyed we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.
    Helen Keller
  10. To live in hearts we leave behind is not to die.
    Thomas Campbell

Kind words can make a difference to those that are grieving. Cards of sympathy can often bring comfort to those left behind, bringing the knowledge that their loved one was always thought of fondly.

You can find a range of sympathy cards at Clintons, complete with a range of comforting messages.